Do you tend to …
- shy away from certain kinds of group activities?
- express yourself in writing?
- enjoy solitude?
- dislike small talk?
- listen more than you talk?
- do your best work on your own?
- avoid conflict?
- think before you speak?
- feel drained after group interactions, even if you’ve enjoyed yourself?

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If you answered “yes” to most of my questions, join the club.
Don’t worry,
I’m not talking about a club where people party to the beat of loud music, or meet up in noisy restaurants, talking over one another.
I know that would make you uncomfortable.
I’m using the term “club” figuratively to describe 57 percent of the U.S. population
(that’s right, more than half)
who are introverts.
You may be wondering what exactly separates introverts from their polar opposites, extroverts.
“Extroverts are energized by people, and wilt or fade when alone. They often seem bored by themselves, in both senses of the expression. Leave an extrovert alone for two minutes and he will reach for his cell phone. In contrast, after an hour or two of being socially ‘on,’ we introverts need to turn off and recharge,” writes Johnathan Rauch of The Atlantic. “This isn’t antisocial. It isn’t a sign of depression. It does not call for medication. For introverts, to be alone with our thoughts is as restorative as sleeping, as nourishing as eating.”
Still with me?